John 3:20-21 NKJV
For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”
You think because he doesn’t love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn’t want you anymore that he is right - that his judgement and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don’t. It’s a bad word, ‘belong.’ Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn’t be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can’t even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, because the clouds let him; they don’t wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can’t own a human being. You can’t lose what you don’t own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don’t, do you? And neither does he. You’re turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can’t value you more than you value yourself.
I’ve been hiding away my thoughts for quite some time. But now I am at peace with how I feel…at least I am today. My humanity is every present with me in my walk with Christ and I am so thankful for His understanding and tolerance…it puts a whole new meaning to His grace and mercy. I sho nuf need it!
I have been thinking a lot about my struggles as a single women at 29. A lot of this comes from spending so much of my youth dreaming and planning for marriage (even saving myself) and then to find myself still single, it is hard for me to move beyond today. Beyond right now, my life makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. At 29 I wanted to be married 4 years ago, building my home and savings account to prepare for our first child 1 year ago and by now I’d be a stay at home mom. Hahaha! There are things about that plan that I am glad didn’t come true. After all I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and there is no way to know but I doubt that would have happened had I married at 25.
Still I feel lost and my life has little purpose. This is where everyone comes in and says “that’s not true, you are God’s child, and blah blah blah” or “how could you feel that way??” blah blah blah…. Okay well let me explain what I mean by little purpose. I mean that the purpose of my life is the same that it has been for the past 29 years…I am a daughter, a sister, and I enjoy helping others. I’ve been doing that all my life. Those things are still important but they don’t have the same meaning they once had.
According Genesis 2:24
A garden inclosed (meaning barred) is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up , a fountain sealed. Song of Solomon 4:12
The Virgin’s Song
I am a mysterious garden that is locked
The sordid are turned away, all deception is blocked
Where are all my precious fruit grow wild and free
And only my Master has the key.
He will give it to whom our Heart selects
A Man of Valor, one of God’s elect
Whose golden heart has been tried by fire
Who surrenders to my Master his every desire.
Some see my bars as chains,
They only want to see my pain.
But I am free, I am safe in El Shaddai!
We are never alone, my sisters and I.
All my treasures wait for the One who is worthy of the key.
The One who will awaken all these passions in me.
P.S. That pic looks familiar doesn’t it? When I saw it I gasped!
Great meeting today about “Love”
Virtuous Daughters Meeting - 4/7/2012
Love- True Love vs. False Love
What is Love, what does it look like?
· It is a word that gets thrown around a lot but what are we really supposed to be doing in love?
· I Corinthians 13:4-7
· Verse 6: rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth. Many people use “love” to justify wrong doing. For example, if a young lady feels she is really is love, some would encourage her to go against the wishes of her parents and her faith to “follow after her heart.” Others proclaim that because God is so loving He could not possible punish anyone for their sins or for “loving” someone they shouldn’t be with sexually.
Read Proverbs 31 Women
· How did she express the Love of God?
Read Ester 4:16
· How did she express the Love of God?
The Sacrifice of Christ
· What does Jesus’ life and ministry tell us about the Father’s love for us?
What are we taught about Love in the world?
- · Through music
- · Through movies
- · By our families
- · By our churches
Depending on how you grew up your answers might differ from others. However, now that we know what the bible says about love and we compare that to how the world perceives love (which gives us the concept of “false love” and “true love”) but how do we get through all the mess and learn the language of true love?
Just like doing the right thing does not always feel good, neither does true love.
I was recently talking to a client about Eros (romantic) love and lust. So many marriages end in divorce because people have such a warped perspective of love. We associate love with happiness, affection, and mutual giving. But we know from Christ that those are not at the core of true love only ideal outcomes of love. Even in romance we will be called upon to love someone, when are desire for them has faltered. Love can bring us tears and pain.
Even still, I don’t believe that forever love is a fantasy like my client was trying to convince me. I believe that in my marriage I will experience God’s intended Eros love, the kind of love that even when we are 80 and can’t have sex we can stare at each other and have eye sex. For all of this wait and patience I have nothing to really show for it yet, but by my faith I believe God has something awesome in store for me. And I believe my life will be for an example to whoever it needs to be an example.
So what’s the point? We need to know this so that we can share it with other people both the knowledge of what love is and literally showing them what love is.